European culture is perceived as sexually liberated. It’s perfectly acceptable for both men and women to have casual sex when, how and with whom they desire. Sex is usually seen as a way to satisfy psychological needs – feel loved, feel wanted, feel attracting, feel satisfied and so on. I collected some sex traditions from all around the world to see how different cultures perceive sex and shared some thoughts on how those can be implemented in our “ordinary” sex life. Perhaps, these sex traditions may liberate something in you, or inspire you to spice up your sex life with something different, something, we in Western world are not used to.
Allow sex with strangers for a year. The ritual takes place in Gunung Kemukus, Central Java, Indonesia that is usually referred to as the “sex mountain”. Pilgrims come to one of the sacred springs and find a stranger and have sex with. They need to have sex seven times every 35 days, so this relationships last around a year.
Sex with strangers is nothing new for Westerners. I bet, many of us have been in a one-night stand for at least once. However in the context of this Indonesian tradition, sex with strangers is perceived as a way to discover a random person on sexual level. While seeing each other 7 times a year the couple develops sexual connection setting emotional or any other attachments aside.
Experience sex through a ceremony. The Muria tribe in Central India has a tradition called Ghotul, when teenage men and women engage in ceremonial orgies. Girls drink a “magic potion” to prevent pregnancy and then choose different sexual partners every night. If the herbal drink doesn’t work and the girl becomes pregnant, the entire village will adopt the baby since no one knows for sure who the father is.
To me this tradition underlines two important elements for psychological balance: connection and learning. While public sex fulfils the need for connection, sex with strangers promotes curiosity and strive to explore. Satisfying those two elements packed in a ceremonial set up makes the learning process even more exciting to try. Luckily we have slightly more advanced methods of contraception to avoid the unwanted pregnancy, as we know that none of our neighbours would take care of the child.
Share your partner with friends – In the populated Himalayas, there is not much land available for farming and grazing. People have to keep their families small to reserve more land for agriculture. The solution to this is to get one woman for all of the sons of a family. Thus in some Nepalese communities, many brothers share a single wife.
Apparently, the most common in Western sex culture is a three-some. There’s nothing wrong about sharing your partner with a nice and lovely creature of the same or the opposite sex. The problem appears when one of the partners starts to experience jealousy or entail the feeling of possession. This actually happens to the Nepalese tribe as well – the wife must be adept at scheduling time with each brother to keep jealous flares from rising.
Find your partner by trying him in bed first. The parents of Kreung Tribe in Cambodia build love huts for their teenaged daughters, where the latter can have sex with different men till they find the one. Well, to connect with the partner sexually before committing to lasting relationships and marriage sounds like a good idea.
Play sex in a sand-pit. The Trobrianders in Papua, New Guinea start having sex very early. Girls usually start by the age of 6 to 8, while boys start at 10 to 12. Thus sex before marriage is never an issue there.
When did you have your first sex? How was it? 🙂
Celebrate fertility festival. In Japan fertility festival has been around for nearly 1,500 years. The festival features sacred rock-hard penis and vagina stones, stage acts, mikoshi parade as well as ritual public sex. The ritual is said to inspire couples to be sexually more open. In addition, it reportedly raises awareness about safe sex and fundraises for HIV prevention.
In Europe we celebrate sex events too: gay parades, sex fairs, kink parties, naked runs, you name it. Some of them also fundraise, and some of them promote sexual minority rights.
Spice up your love life, literally. In the Mehinaku village in Brazil locals use the same word for eating and sex, since both involve taking something into your body. There men compete for sex with women by giving them gifts of fish. The Japanese went further with their nyotaimori, often referred to as “body sushi,” where sushi & sashimi are eaten from the body of a woman, typically naked. As a result of being served on a human body, the temperature of the sushi or sashimi comes closer to body temperature. Certainly worth trying.
Cookie: Charles Schillings – Spin It Right, music video with the taste of sushi